“Intelligence, knowledge, freedom from doubt and delusion, forgiveness, truthfulness, self-control and calmness, pleasure and pain, birth, death, fear, fearlessness, nonviolence, equanimity, satisfaction, austerity, charity, fame, and infamy are created by Me alone.” -Bhagavad Gita
Everybody fears rejection and thus denies attempt. What happens when you get rejected and feel rebuffed? It is always hard to accept things that you do not approve off.
Why is it so tough to accept failure, be it in love or career? Yesterday, I got a news that an IT professional hung himself to death after been ditched. Whose fault is this? Who is to be blamed? Why people prefer terminating their lives rather than sharing the grief? Are we failing as a listener? What is the first thing you say when somebody approaches you with a problem? The possible answers, which we get most of the times are – ”I already told you not to do it! Now face the consequences,” ”As u sow, so shall you reap,” ”You are a born loser!,” or the worst “Tumse Na Ho Payega!” When was the last time you made fun of them? Have you ever uttered a word of condolence to the people facing a debacle?
People out there, I know rejections doesn’t taste sweet! I recount you that I understand and I’m with you! It is okay! Whatever happened, happens with a lot of people. You did your best and we shall do it again. Do not be depressed, it is ok to cry even if you are a boy, after all, you are human full of all the emotions mentioned in the beginning of the article.
It is okay if he/she left you, and you loved them with all your heart. I know it feels awful but your parents love you more than that girl/boy, so live happily for the ones who loves you unconditionally. That was just a bad dream and now you are awake.
The world is full of people with different views. The views and opinions will be showered to you even when you don’t want one. Be at peace. This way you will only see the positive panorama. Always remember – a clear rejection is always better than a fake promise.
Once rejected does not mean, in any case, that it is the end. The life is full of great and exciting opportunities. You just have to deal with the rejections and make a strong comeback. But how to deal with rejection? Here are a few great tips, which will help you to deal with rejections.
How To Deal With Rejection? – 9 Incredible Tips And Ideas
#1 Believe in Endeavors
Didn’t get that job? That just means somebody tried harder. Getting rejected in a job interview does not mean you are a loser and incompetent. It means that it was not your BEST day. That’s it! Either you need to change the zone and if that is your passion, you need to try harder.
#2 ‘It is okay’ ATTITUDE
Life is too short to cry for the things you did not achieve. Even if you did not clear the assessment, it is okay. Bad results do not manifest your abilities. You are not Wikipedia and hence, you are not supposed to have answers to every query!!!
#3 Be A Sanguine
There is nothing wrong in rejection. It is just you do not fulfill their requirements and hence, it does not make you unfit for the entire world. You definitely are good at something. Explore yourself!!
#4 Tolerant You!
Most people are worried about the people’s reactions. Sometimes their own family and friends fail to understand the situation and reverberation of their words. Don’t let words of others mold your opinions. If there are naggers, there will certainly be people who will, without judging you, will appreciate your efforts and will motivate you for the better. Opinions do matter for many of us until we have not attained a certain position or social status. It is just important to comprehend positively. “The same sun that melts the ice and hardens the clay”
#5 Quality Over Quantity
Don’t count the number of friends you have, but the number of friends you can count on. We often tend to loose friends who are honest and doesn’t present truth in a palatable manner. Truth must be spoken straight forward, giving you a clear picture of oneself. Actually, they help to have a clear conscience, which can be your Armour.
#6 PARENTS- The best counselors
We ought to think “they don’t know anything”. Actually, they do and they understand you better than yourself. Throughout their lives, they’ve also had their own set of failures, so listen to the experts and learn. We seek help outside, which we can easily get at home. Expecting sympathy from people you just met last year all because you want to avoid that “lecture.” So, you miss the wisdom that follows after those five minutes of oration.
#7 Your ‘COHABITEES’ are not EVERYTHING
There is very much into life than love, actually, I must say the “trend” to have a partner. This must not be the only priority in life. People who do not succeed in their juncture of love considers their life to be a dud. The manifestation of this disease may be a refusal of your proposal or may be unable to marry the one you desired.
But as I said, this is not the only reason why you were born. It hurts knowing that the other person does not feel the same way you do, but what hurts the most are the memories of good times together. Even if you can’t be together, in the end, be glad that they were a part of your life. Time heals almost everything. Don’t worry! You WILL survive.
#8 Busy Bee
Keep yourself occupied. Extract yourself from the random thoughts that cause you pain. Be at peace with your past. It is gone and will never return. Indulge yourself in physical activities; be ambitious; keep your priorities straight; keep your mind right and heads up. Here you go!!
Also Read: 12 Golden Habits To Help Advance Your Career
#9 NEVER Plan A Revenge
Planning revenge actually means you are not over with it. Forge, forgive and move on. Have self-worth and do not to seek vengeance. You have already wasted a part of you exquisite life; not anymore!
Summing It Up
Self-respect should take precedence always in your life. Nobody comes before your health and happiness. It is YOUR life and NO ONE has the right to ruin it. There is no shame in admitting that life is harder than you can bear. You are a fighter but do not take the world on all alone. Share your concerns before it is too late. As you do not own all the problems in the world and you are not supposed to lose your beautiful smile.